Social media has taken motherhood rivalry to the next level and we're all to blame. I post photos like this and it looks like we have a perfectly perfect breakfast out with our son. It looks like we had a lovely morning, eating at our fave cafe and nothing in the world can bother us. What you don't see is the fact he didn't even eat most of it. What you don't see is the tantrum he threw when we said he couldn't get a bubble drink at 9:30 am. What you don't see is two tired parents too lazy to cook breakfast on Saturday. What you'll never see is two broke parents with -$ in the bank and a tiny shred of sanity left. You see the fun bits, the parts that make us look like insta-parents that you should be jealous of. Those insta-mums who have the best prams, the teething necklaces you don't ever wear, the yoga pants that cost $74.99 and always have a cafe coffee in their manicured hand. Put your hand up if you have ever looked at someones facebook or instagram and thought to yourself "Oh, I wish I had that" or "I wish I could do that". I know I have, I do it all the time. I'm a serial stalker of people that I've made out (in my mind) to be "better mothers" than me. Its just not real and comparison is the thief of joy! If we all took snapshots of the best bits of our lives, it would look amazing from the outside. Thats what social media does for me. It makes me look glamorous. Facebook makes my life look exciting. It gives people the fake version of me. I'm actually weird and not many people like the real Sarah. Think about what your life looks like from the outside? What kind of person are you? Authentic or just another social media pretender? If I posted what my life was actually like day-to-day you'd be bored to tears. Actually.. most of this blog contains what I do and someone seems to read it lol. Take down your expectations of what motherhood is and you won't be shocked when you become one. We're all real people and our shit stinks too.
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Aaaaah, the life of luxury.
Luxurious laundry, luxurious nappy changing, luxurious fat pants and sports bras! Being a stay at home mum is a luxury. Say what? No, not the type of rolex wearing, champagne popping (although this does happen when we SAHMs get frisky), drippin' in ice, VIP type of luxury. The type when only a small % of New Zealanders can actually afford to stay at home with their children. I know that I complain, in fact I'm a serial complainer and a spoiled, undeserving bitch. Poor me, my husband works insane hours so I can stay at home. I have the money to do what I need to, to eat what I want to, to go where I have to. Poor me, I have to do laundry and vaccuming, I have to cook meals and give the kids constant attention. I have to remember that I chose this, I chose to be a mother. All those times I day dream.. when I think to myself.. Oh I could have been this or could have done that. Next time, I'll shake it off and remember that being a mother doesn't mean the end of anything. It is only the beginning! I wont get offended when people ask me "what I do all day". You know what bitch, I stayed in my pj's and watched Mean Girls on netflix. JUDGE AWAY. Yes, my son is eating porridge for dinner. YES, I do have mashed veges in my hair and my fanny isn't waxed or "vagazzled". I wont nag my husband when he comes home from work because I want him to do things around the house. He has a job, I've got a job and thats it. I just thought of a really great idea**. A Tinder for mums to find other mum friends, that would be super great. I would put in my BIO something I thought was witty.. but probably makes me look like a psychopath. "Mum of two, drinks wine (or anything really), eats pizza, can pee in public camp ground, average looks and above average dance moves to sexy music or children's nursery rhymes." Do you think I'd get many swipes? lol.. probably not. Sayonara. S x **Great is a stretch |
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