Marriage isn't all fun and games. As a self confessed attention seeker, I'm not ashamed to say that I miss the attention of other people. I miss being pretty. I'm sick of being a fat wife. I hate being comfortable. I want to be wanted. I want to dance and I'm sick of cleaning up after ungrateful toddlers. I hate wearing oversized, ugly, food-covered t-shirts and leggings. I want to wear a dress so tight it hugs my ass-cheeks. I want to be beautiful and it isn't happening right now. Is the grass really greener on the other side though? Probably not. My husband and I are going through a thing right now. We have become complacent and lazy. Our life together has become ships passing each other in the night. We stopped spending time together and our marriage has become somewhat of a convenience rather than the privilege it's supposed to be. After 5 years together, we've become totally different people and thats ok. We are both changing and still have a lot to learn. I straddle the line between wanting to stab him in the face and wanting to rip his clothes off.. Take me as I am ;) ha! We've talked more than we ever have in the last few weeks, things are slowly improving after some heavy questions and a bit of soul searching. We forgot to say "I love you", we stopped holding hands, we stopped laughing.. But we're bringin' it back baby! For everyone that is going through something with your partner or your husband/wife.. Take the moments as they come, however few and far between they are! Remember the times you were happy. Remember your first kiss, all the hand holding, the waist grabbing, the first time he said "i love you", the trip you took to hot water beach before life got in the way, the time you needed a lime ice block because you were 8 months pregnant and he brought the wrong one back.. but you still ate it because you love him..Every time you had the warm, fuzzy feeling in your tummy, think of that. Marriage is hard, you have to consciously fill up the box you have. For everyone who married young, or if you plan to.. Get ready because shit is about to get real. There will be tough times, there will be amazing times and there'll be those times where you are in between. Its not a fairytale. Plan for the hard times, revel in the good ones. You’ll be tempted to invent an alternative life for yourself, the one that you might have had if you didn't get married young. It will look shiny and exciting from where you sit, surrounded by laundry and all the other bullshit of normal life. But this is just a trick of the mind. Life is hard no matter where you live it, no matter who you live it with. "Don't worry, be happy!" It's been real. Thanks for reading my blog posts if you've been following me.. There are some people out there who think I can't read and don't know they are copying my blog.. I'll leave it up to you to write the rest. S x
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Sarah. Mother. Wife. Daughter. Adrenaline auto injectors are not funded in New Zealand, Please sign the petition to change this. Our family is affected by anaphylaxis as are so many others. You can make a difference!
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