It's a strange thing to think about, trivial actually. It isn't something that you consider on the daily but lately I've found myself thinking about it more and more. Love languages. When my son sleeps, he has to have his hand under my armpit or inside my t-shirt, he loves touch. He is comforted by touch. This is how he expresses himself as well, I think physical touch has such an emotional meaning with children, especially. Thats why we are compelled to hug and kiss babies, why we hug each other and ultimately how some of us feel love from a partner or family member. Sometimes he needs me to hold his hand in the car (my arm really can't bend that way for much longer than 2 minutes but i'll do it anyway because I know he really needs that). It took me a while to get used to this and I'm really not a fan of sleeping with my childs hand under my boob but I feel like if I didn't let him do that then I would be robbing him of his emotional security. I've spent a lot of time trying to let it go and just let him be Noah. It is hard sometimes because I love my personal space! My primary love language is words of affirmation, any kind of positive praise, reinforcement or appreciation. This is only my primary one and I think we all share most of them to an extent. My husband makes me feel appreciated and loved when he gives me those words of affirmation. I always feel more emotionally connected to him when he shows me I'm loved by telling me so. Who doesn't love a bit of that though? The other three are just as important to any kind of relationship. Recognising your love language might improve your personal relationships as well. Acts of service or "Do things for me" (as I like to call it) is one that I think a lot of people can relate to. Its taking "actions speak louder than words" and applying that to your love life. Things like saying "I love you" wouldn't be enough for a "do things for me" person, you need them to show you by doing simple things like helping you with cooking or noticing that the dishwasher needed emptying. I think women in particular will relate the Gifts love language! Gift receiving is a universal one because no one dislikes getting a present. I think its like a well known fact that if you love someone, you'll give to them. The gifts don't even have to be elaborate, a "gift getter" is a person that would be happy with a home made card or even some flowers to make you feel loved deeply even on a day with no occasion. The last one is one that I though was my primary for a bit because I feel close to someone when I spend a lot of time with them. Time is a special one because if you have nothing in life, no money to your name and you think you've got nothing to give, you can give someone your time. If you're a "quality timer" then you love it when someone is actively listening to you, interacting and responding. You would be happy with your partner or loved one sitting down and having a chat with you or just having a cuddle on the couch with your hubby without TV, Facebook and phones. Men, you'll score a thousand points with your babe if you take the time out to spend that 20 minutes with them and make them feel loved. So what's your love language? I'd love to know. There is books and lots of online research about the five love languages if you wanna know more. This is just my short version. S x
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Natasha
2/11/2015 08:27:48 pm
Hey!
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Sarah K
2/11/2015 09:03:09 pm
Ooh, that sounds like my kind of book. Do you know the author?
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Sally belle
2/11/2015 08:29:44 pm
I love this ! And it's so true ... I'm absolutely the gifts one hehe
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Sarah K
2/11/2015 09:04:25 pm
Who doesn't love gifts though? Your hubby seems to speak your love language VERY well, you are so lucky! :D xxx
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Irene
2/11/2015 08:49:04 pm
My act of love has to be my family and extended family and my friends.My act of love is waiting till you write so I can read about the amazing things things you and your baby's do .xxx
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Sarah K
2/11/2015 09:05:09 pm
Thats a lovely one because other people feed off of you spending your time with them, family always appreciates time x
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